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Gay/Straight Roomie Situation
Return to DiscussionsHey guys! I wanted to talk about my current situation and maybe get some advice.......
My roomie Derek and I have been friends for a long time. He knows I'm gay and he knows I'm a nudist yet he was the one to suggest we live together. This was a while back. Derek's straight but has never been uptight and sorta just quietly accepted that I would be naked around the house. Out of respect, right at first, I didn't get TOO naked TOO often. But of course that has worn down and I'm just naked all the time now at home.
Derek like I said has never been uptight. For the longest time, he never cared if I saw him in his underwear, but he never went out of his way to be in his underwear around me, if that makes sense. Sometimes I would catch him naked post-shower or on his way to the bathroom in the middle of the night, or whatever. Like he could change his clothes around me if the situation called for it.
About a couple of months ago, Derek started being in his underwear around me more. We'd watch TV or play video games, or what have you. And now in the last couple of weeks, he's started being naked. It started off slow, like coming to the kitchen in the morning for coffee, or going to the bathroom even when he knew I was up and could see him. Now, he's as naked as I am. We spend our days off hanging out naked around the house, or doing housework or whatever.
I caught him jacking off on the couch a few days ago, and he finished because I walked in on him right when he was about done. He just laughed it off and even though he did blush a little he didn't seem TOO concerned. Well, so I set it up for him to catch me, and kind of just hung out and watched, and said that since I caught him and saw him cum, it was only fair if he saw me cum. I mean, I'm paraphrasing a little. But he stood there and watched me finish.
Last night, he walked into my room and caught me jacking off again. He didn't say anything, but he also didn't stay and watch. But this morning, he was in the shower and I told him I had to come in and take a leak. He said "Ok" so he knew I was there. While I was peeing, I could see in the mirror's reflection that he was beating off in the shower! Like right behind me basically. I told him I could see him and he laughed. When I was done and whatnot, I turned around to fling open the curtain. He wasn't beating off, but his dick was still really hard. I teased him that he didn't have to stop on my account, and he told me he finished already! Like WHILE I was taking a piss.
Now, I would let Derek fuck me if he wanted to, and I would love to suck him off. But I am also pragmatic and managing my expectations. But, I guess I'm wondering where this is going with him. Like where his newfound sense of all this is coming from, is he just learning off me? Getting more comfortable with me? Like I said, I'd love to do all there is to do with him, but at the very least, I'd love to jack off with him. Does anyone have advice or think that's a possibility? Just throwing this out there to get some other perspectives I guess!
Idk man. This story seems pretty fabricated and extremely unlikely if he was straight
I'm sorry it comes off that way to you.
1.) I didn't touch on all the nuances of our relationship over the years, either, to keep it brief.
2.) Male nudists can be naked around each other without it speaking to their sexuality.
3.) Guys can even beat off together without it necessarily speaking to their sexuality.
4.) This is the point of my post, to ask what others think. Maybe he isn't AS straight as I thought? Maybe his curiosity has flared up lately? Maybe he just is relaxing now that we've lived together for a while? Maybe he's looking to try having a bate bro? I mean, I know it takes a special kind of guy to be able to do something like that, but I still think a guy can beat off with another guy and be straight. Or slightly flexible. Which again was the point of me asking...
I would go the porn route as well. It sounds very real and believable to me, I was a nudist in college and let my soon to be roomie know ahead of time. He was naked in our room all the time halfway through the first semester. We would openly jerk off around each other as well, I should point out I was and am bi, he never really said what his preference was. When we came back from fall break it went up a few levels. He would sit or lie back on my bed next to me while we jerked off. Started out with thighs touching, then shoulders, to eventually rubbing each others balls. The bit mitigating factor was porn. I always had a mmf bi porn on when we jerked together. When we came back from winter break it just progressed naturally to the point that porn wasn't needed. We ended up doing naked public dares, swapping head, and me fucking him. He's divorced and single now but we still keep in touch. He has told me though that had I not been as open and comfortable about it in front of him about being naked, stroking, and watching porn that he probably never would have tried new things.
Im with Phx, you could blow up an incredible meaningful friend relationship if youre not careful. Set no expectations and let him lead. He may be exploring. He may be pushing the limits of a bro friendship. You dont know. Youre experiencing a great male bonding time most of us fantasize about.
Enjoy it. But keep your heart in check.
Naked Hugs!
It seems like he's getting more comfortable with you. Maybe he's always done it hidden, but now he's ready to do it with you. Maybe he's not really straight or he just wants to enjoy different things with you. Keep doing what you always do and one day, without forcing anything, let it happen naturally. Maybe you guys do it or masturbate together, what matters is to let your friendship grow! Good Luck!
Thanks for the advice, guys!
Just to preface this a little, I got a couple inbox messages from blank profiles either accusing me of trying to seduce a straight guy, or saying that I was lying because a straight guy would never fuck me. To which I responded "Your reading comprehension sucks, dude." LMAO (And I truly don't believe it was the guy who responded first on here, so no shade there.) But I felt like just to ward that off and to restate what I was saying, I WOULD have sex with him, but he hasn't touched me or even remotely indicated that that would be an option. I was just trying to indicate how open and receptive I am to the situation. (Honestly, I thought was clear. LOL)
So, anyway, I'm taking all your good advice to heart. I'm just gonna keep on keeping on and see what happens. I am definitely not in the practice of forcing anything, and I'd rather be his friend than ruin that. Plus, at the very least, I get to see his dick. LMAO
This morning was nice and kind of typical of our mornings together these days. He was naked in the kitchen when I got up, and we waited for the coffee to brew and then chatted and woke up for the day. It was pretty simple and uneventful but still really nice!
I think your last thoughts on how to proceed are the best approach . . . enjoy what happens, hanging out nude, catching him jacking, etc. Be yourself and do what you would normally do and let him take the lead on taking it to a different level. Sounds like a great living situation to me. I wish I had a hot, hung roommate.
I had something similar with a roomie in university. I had had some Bi experiences before but kept it under wraps. My roomie was from the country and straight but was more comfortable hanging around naked which made me pretty uncomfortable 'cause I had to keep hiding how much it was tempting and arousing me.