Tactile Nudists
For anyone who likes to touch and be touched, be it loving, sensual or sexual.
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Public Displays of Affection
Return to DiscussionsI'm very tactile with my wife; even at the nudist resort.
When there are other people around, I keep it "light." I might put my hand around her shoulder and pull her naked body against me as we walk around. If we're chatting with another couple that's also into PDA, I will often hug my wife's body from behind when we stop to chat. In the hot-tub, I will often put my arm around her waist/hips and pull her close; occasionally grabbing a butt cheek in the process. Luckily, light PDA is not frowned upon at my resort.
If there's no one around, it can get more "heavy" - because I'm less scared of getting an erection. I might pull her in grabbing her butt, squeezing and pulling her cheeks apart. Or have her sit on my lap, gently running my hand over her tits. Or massaging her inner-thigh, pulling her legs open. Basically; I'm constantly touching her. It's certainly sensual; but not always sexual. And she loves it.
I think naked PDA - whether sex is involved or not - is important for intimacy.
A bonus for some is group PDA; which I experienced in my previous marriage with another couple. Our male friend would have my wife sit on his lap - which she did willingly - and caress her body. I would do the same with his GF, putting my arm around her waist and pulling her close. It doesn't have to turn sexual.
At a nudist resort, I don't think there is anything wrong with a public display of affection between a husband and wife that includes some physical contact (a kiss, a hug, a touch) as long as it isn't blatantly sexual. This is only natural and shouldn't be discouraged.
My wife and I used to dance nude when our club had a DJ on the weekends. We would hold each other close and kiss. Of course, this was rather suggestive. I don't see the harm in that.
"Low-key" PDA (kissing, arms around the hips/shoulders, bear hugs) is typically considered innocuous at nudist resorts. It's "sustained" PDA that can raise eyebrows or trigger some people.
We are friends with another affectionate couple; and sometimes she will lay on top of her husband in his lounge chair. His legs are open and she is reclining against him on her back, while chatting with friends. It is clear that in that position, her lower back is pressed against his penis. No one says anything because they are well-respected "regulars"; but you can tell that passers-by are a bit surprised by the level of physical contact.
On one occasion a young newbie couple was being very amorous and playful, splashing around in the lake. He would carry her in his arms, sometimes by grabbing her ass and lifting her up to where her tits were in his face; before throwing her in the lake. They weren't being sexual; but you could tell he had a "semi." They were approached by older members who asked them to "tone it down." That didn't surprise me; although I personally thought they weren't doing anything wrong.
So I think it all depends on the resort and who is around at the time. At some resorts "sustained PDA" is considered "sexually suggestive"; especially if it could potentially lead to an erection. Besides the BnB, I've been to an adult-oriented resort that clearly didn't care as much. My ex, who was even more tactile than I was back then, would be "all over me" without us ever getting in trouble.
At AANR nudist clubs, there are rules against displays of "suggestive familiarity". Couples who visit a club regularly usually know just how far they can go in displaying affection without getting into trouble. They know who is likely to be offended or make a complaint and those who are more liberal about these things. Hopefully, they will consider who is around at the time before becoming too affectionate. They shouldn't do that in front of visitors who are there for the first time because they might be offended.
I am more on the liberal side, especially if the display is spontaneous. If that young couple was being playful near the lake, it wouldn't bother me any. It also wouldn't bother me if the guy got a "semi". It also wouldn't bother me if that woman was sitting provocatively close to her husband on the lounge chair
Suppose that your wife was applying sunblock to your chest and face and maybe to other parts of your body (not your genitals) and you got an erection. Would that be an inappropriate public display of affection? Suppose that she unexpectedly put her arms around your neck and kissed you while you were both nude, causing you to get hard? What if she did that on purpose? Would that be an inappropriate display of affection? I would say "No" in the above cases and that, even if she deliberately caused got you hard, she was only teasing you a bit with maybe the loving sex to come later when you were alone. Only a prude would object to this level of affection between a husband and wife.
Agreed completely.
One of the perks of nudism is that it allows am intimate connection with your partner. It can truly enhance the relationship. The "prudes" will say: "just keep it at home." Yeah home is fine...but it's different when you connect in an open environment outside of the bedroom; while doing activities or socializing. There's a different kind of "fun factor."
If I never touched my wife at nudist venues she would feel that "something's not quite right." I'm very tactile at home and in the "textile world"; so - keeping certain boundaries in mind - why would it be any different when we're at the resort?