Poly Nudists
A group for those in, or wanting to be in a polyamorous (triad) relationships
- created by Nakedjoe
Thoughts on Poly
Return to DiscussionsHmmmmm... Ive been thinking about this a little more than normal. I know most on here post words like equal and same level... but I dont know. I think... I think Id like to be the third wheel.
Hear me out, please.
I know me. Im an introvert extrovert. I enjoy being alone. There are those times that I need/crave social settings. Especially nude ones. But after looking for a relationship for about four years, I think my solution is poly but not equal.
Im ok with being the third wheel. Where a couple is a couple and I am an extra. The heavy burden of emotional and mental weight is not on me. Im not jealous. I can appreciate the bond you two have. And honored in sharing in that bond for moments at a time.
I love love. I love being in love. I miss it. I want to say it. But, please dont judge, I also like being solitary at times. And the best of both world would be a polyamorous relationship.
Thoughts? Takers? Hit me up. Lets discuss.
I was fortunate a few years ago to be invited over to a married couple's home to be the third wheel.
It was a lot of fun and very exciting, even more so when the husband would tell me to do certain things to his wife.
It was extremely hot, both by being watched and instructed and watching their reactions to me.
I look forward to more exciting times in the near future.
Hmmmmm... Ive been thinking about this a little more than normal. I know most on here post words like equal and same level... but I dont know. I think... I think Id like to be the third wheel.Hear me out, please.I know me. Im an introvert extrovert. I enjoy being alone. There are those times that I need/crave social settings. Especially nude ones. But after looking for a relationship for about four years, I think my solution is poly but not equal.Im ok with being the third wheel. Where a couple is a couple and I am an extra. The heavy burden of emotional and mental weight is not on me. Im not jealous. I can appreciate the bond you two have. And honored in sharing in that bond for moments at a time.I love love. I love being in love. I miss it. I want to say it. But, please dont judge, I also like being solitary at times. And the best of both world would be a polyamorous relationship.Thoughts? Takers? Hit me up. Lets discuss.
I'm glad you're taking the time to explore what you want in a relationship! I think what you're asking for is perfectly valid. There are boundaries in a poly relationship everyone involved has to accept, and I've seen some people in poly relationships that are introverted and require space to just work on their own things. One thing to remember is that while codependency is a good thing, the most important thing of all is your own goals, and the other people in your relationship ultimately must be supportive of it. In turn, expecting to be left alone would not make you any lesser in a relationship. As long as the other people are able to respect your boundaries, this makes it an equal relationship!
Hmmmmm... Ive been thinking about this a little more than normal. I know most on here post words like equal and same level... but I dont know. I think... I think Id like to be the third wheel.Hear me out, please.I know me. Im an introvert extrovert. I enjoy being alone. There are those times that I need/crave social settings. Especially nude ones. But after looking for a relationship for about four years, I think my solution is poly but not equal.Im ok with being the third wheel. Where a couple is a couple and I am an extra. The heavy burden of emotional and mental weight is not on me. Im not jealous. I can appreciate the bond you two have. And honored in sharing in that bond for moments at a time.I love love. I love being in love. I miss it. I want to say it. But, please dont judge, I also like being solitary at times. And the best of both world would be a polyamorous relationship.Thoughts? Takers? Hit me up. Lets discuss.
I don't think it's a right dynamic or structure versus a wrong one but rather what works for the group or polycule in question. The term third wheel is inherently derogatory and implies that this person is a burden or not at all important or having a place. Let's imagine that your personality as described has a positive iteration and is a fit for the right couple or group. It's a necessary step towards actually getting to the point of being invited to join and knowing you likely fit in.
Poly means you have active relationships with each man and they you. Otherwise it's fucking one or more of a couple or fanboying on the margins of your fantasy of the couple not necessarily the couple. But if there's any chance you can get two men into all that then go for it. It's just probably not the best way and not likely going to hold together well. You want benefits that are in your view radically reduced but no responsibility really and why not just have a bad relationship with one guy just like I did one... four times lol instead of two?
There's also other options for social fun and the occasional sexy times with a couple that are not polyamory but can be good or exciting for all.