Social nudism with the wife.
Return to DiscussionsMy wife and I are social nudists at a "nude-mandatory" resort. It's very social, and my wife and I have friends there. We spend most of the day interacting with each other.
It took a while for my wife to adjust to people seeing her completely naked up close, but she's done a good job adapting to it. Seeing other women being totally comfortable with me seeing them naked motivated her to be more confident around other men. And seeing other men appreciating the "sights" of her naked body makes me proud of her. We have a "nothing to hide" philosophy with our closer friends; and my wife doesn't mind them having a "good look" while she sunbathing with her legs open or bending over. These interactions have rid her of her inhibitions about her pussy being seen. It's beautiful to watch her being so free with her body.
Social nudism is the best!
My wife and I are social nudists at a "nude-mandatory" resort. ..It took a while for my wife to adjust to people seeing her completely naked up close, but she's done a good job adapting to it. Seeing other women being totally comfortable with me seeing them naked motivated her to be more confident around other men. And seeing other men appreciating the "sights" of her naked body makes me proud of her. We have a "nothing to hide" philosophy with our closer friends; and my wife doesn't mind them having a "good look" while she sunbathing with her legs open or bending over. These interactions have rid her of her inhibitions about her pussy being seen. It's beautiful to watch her being so free with her body.
My wife and I have belonged to the same nudist club for years. Unfortunately, the club sometimes holds events where nudity is not required. Nudity is required at the pool but not at other common areas. She isn't shy at all about sunbathing nude or socializing with other people while nude. It doesn't matter if she doesn't know the person all that well because she feels safe at the club. Unfortunately, she may feel inhibited at some of the events. She doesn't want to be the only woman who is naked. I'll encourage her to be nude anyway, but I'm not always successful in convincing her. She has surprised me a few times by stripping when I hadn't expected it. Of course, I love it when other men appreciate seeing her naked body.
Unfortunately, she may feel inhibited at some of the events. She doesn't want to be the only woman who is naked. I'll encourage her to be nude anyway, but I'm not always successful in convincing her.
That's the issue I had with some of the resorts I've visited that were "too clothing-optional." We were at one clubhouse once, and there were two other couples playing ping-pong. We decided to hang out with them. One woman was in and out of her sarong the entire time, another was topless; one man was naked and the other man was wearing shorts. My wife was definitely not going to be the only woman to stay naked, so she kept her cover-up on. There was no talking her out of it. Her tits did pop out of the sides of her cover-up while bouncing around playing, which was actually pretty funny - and sexy - as she didn't even realize that was happening. But to see my wife playing ping-pong completely naked, with her ass wiggling and her small tits bouncing, would have been priceless.
But, admittedly, "unintentional flashing" while doing activities wearing a cover up or sarong can be spicy. A tit - or both - accidentally popping out while dancing in a sarong is a popular one. My wife's cover-up was short; so any bending or straddling would "flash" the bottom of her asscheeks or even a bit of pussy. My ex-wife, in her "shy days", would wear a sarong tied with a single knot over her chest; so a sudden gush of wind would open it right up, exposing her pussy.
Needless to say, this will almost always get more attention than complete nudity; because it is unexpected and brings focus to that particular exposed part of the body. But it's fun to witness!
That's the issue I had with some of the resorts I've visited that were "too clothing-optional." ... there were two other couples playing ping-pong. .. My wife was definitely not going to be the only woman to stay naked, so she kept her cover-up on. There was no talking her out of it. Her tits did pop out of the sides of her cover-up while bouncing around playing, which was actually pretty funny - and sexy - as she didn't even realize that was happening. But to see my wife playing ping-pong completely naked, with her ass wiggling and her small tits bouncing, would have been priceless.
The nudist club that my wife and I go to is, in effect, clothing optional except at the pool. I don't understand why this allowed. Of course, if it's too cold to go nude, that would be one reason. Even nudists will wear clothing when it gets cold. I think what happens sometimes is the male half of a couple is more of a nudist than the female half and she will go to the club more because he wants to. That is true for one particular couple that I know. I've never seen the wife nude. She is always wearing a sarong. While I agree that it may be sexy to see a woman who is wearing some item of clothing, the purpose of a nudist club is for people to go nude.
I think what happens sometimes is the male half of a couple is more of a nudist than the female half and she will go to the club more because he wants to. That is true for one particular couple that I know. I've never seen the wife nude. She is always wearing a sarong.
That is very often the case with CFNM couples.
On the one hand, I can somewhat sympathize with these men because I'm sure they're hoping their wife will eventually get naked. My wife also started out covered her first time at a nudist resort; and I certainly couldn't force her to get naked. I had to sit back and hope for the best.
On the other hand, my wife was naked within an hour. Another hour later, she was chatting with other nudists in the hot tub. And another hour later she was hanging out naked in the pool area in plain view of everyone else.
It doesn't have to take a couple of hours; but it shouldn't take 10-20 visits either. And if it takes that long: there's a problem. I think some of these guys just give up and say: "Well it's C/O anyway; and at least she's willing to go; so...it is what it is." What these guys often fail to acknowledge is the impact their covered wife can have on other women, and the people around them. It looks like they don't really want to be there, and their husband is "making them"; or they're just there because they enjoy the scenery. It's going to be hard for the "nudes" to enjoy being around them.
I think these CFNM husbands, when they notice that their wife is nowhere near nude after several visits, should to a "time-out" and recalibrate. Start over, at home. Have some designated naked days, or evenings. When or if she reaches the point where she can get around the house naked without feeling weird; maybe then return to the resort, if there is some agreement nudity is "on the table." And if it doesn't happen, it's just not meant to be. Nudism is not for everyone, unfortunately.
Anyway, I'll get off my soapbox now lol!
if it takes that long: there's a problem. I think some of these guys just give up and say: "Well it's C/O anyway; and at least she's willing to go; so...it is what it is." What these guys often fail to acknowledge is the impact their covered wife can have on other women, and the people around them. It looks like they don't really want to be there, and their husband is "making them"...Anyway, I'll get off my soapbox now lol!
I think you're right although I don't think the issue should be pressed to the extent where a husband decides that he and his wife need to take a "time out" from visiting the nudist club. One of my friends actually brought this up at a membership meeting and he got booed. No one wants to force a woman to go completely nude at the pool.
The same thing applies to the dances. The women like the dances to have themes so they can get dressed up. My wife likes to dress up too, but she also likes to get naked. The problem is that she does not want to be the only woman who is dancing naked. By the time the other women decide to take their clothes off, it's usually late in the evening.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that women should have some choice as to whether they go completely nude. Of course, we men would prefer that they go naked all the time. LOL.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that women should have some choice as to whether they go completely nude. Of course, we men would prefer that they go naked all the time. LOL.
Ok...sounds like your resort is 100% clothing-optional. Pool area included?
The "C/O vs. Mandatory Naked" debate is probably as old as nudism itself.
There are resorts that require nudity - even for newbies - right away before even being given the tour. One time, at my resort, I saw a woman wearing a bikini bottom being kindly reminded that bottoms were not allowed in the pool area; and she had the option of taking them off or relocating outside the pool area. Even I think that's too much pressure. What I was specifically referring to are "never-nude" wives; and whether it makes sense to keep bringing them to a nudist resort.
Obviously, much of my opinion stems from being a regular at a nude-mandatory resort; and personally witnessing how everyone being naked can provide motivation for the "shy" to fit in and join in (my wife is a good example of this). But I can also acknowledge that's not for everyone. Every once in a while a newbie will come in, realize everyone is naked; and quietly disappear for the rest of the day (the far end of the resort is unsupervised) before never being seen again.
But even so, that doesn't mean coverage is completely disallowed either. We have a friend who is sensitive to the sun; and after sunning for a while she will put on a shirt and just go bottomless. If we stay late and it gets cooler, my wife has a mesh cover-up - which she still leaves open - to stay warm - without hiding. If the mosquitos are out many even fully cover-up. It's not dogmatically enforced.
Anyway, I digress lol!
Ok...sounds like your resort is 100% clothing-optional. Pool area included?
It would not be correct to say that our club is 100% clothing optional. It's just that the rules are not always enforced when it comes to women. Also, a woman may have legitimate reasons for not wanting to be nude by the pool. For example, she may be having her period or some other health reason.
I don't mind if a woman sometimes covers herself with a sarong or bikini bottom as long as I get to see her nude at other times. The problem that I have is when a woman is never nude. Why would a person want to go to a nudist club if they're not a nudist?