Grower, Not A Shower
This a group for guys who are not that big when flacid, but who grow to a nice size when erect ..! Share some of your measurements with us, what's your size when small vs erect?
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Grower here - anyone else feel ashamed of that fact?
Return to DiscussionsI've always been self conscious of my size when soft, because it gets REALLY small, almost hiding in my body, especially as I've put on weight as I've aged. On the one hand I love my body, and my penis for how it is (I certainly can't change it), but I've also struggled over the years with embarrassment and shame for others to see my penis when it's not at least semi hard, because of my size. I know that it sometimes feels like quite a feat of anatomy that I can go from tiny to an average sized erection, and I am happy that I get to see that much growth. Anyone else ever feel a sense of inadequacy around your smaller than average flaccid member?
Hey I'm the same my cock and balls shrink sometimes to a bump and having a belly over makes it look even smaller too, but I quite like it and I find soft small cocks really sexy on other guys I love showing mine and you should feel good about urs too!
I am definitely a grower, sometimes I am amazed at how short my dick can get. But I got over being self conscious about it when I became a nudist because the focus ceased to be on genitals and just on the pleasure of being naked with other people. And I quickly realized how many guys are small when flaccid. We are the majority, I think.
Spend more time naked with others (beaches, resorts, Korean Spas, etc) and I hope you get over the self-conciousness. It is a waste of energy--better spent having sex :-)
Same here I get surprised how tiny I can get sometimes, and I agree after seeing so many nudist men with smaller soft dicks I realised how sexy they were! and started from accepting to really liking my own little softie, so now love to show it ,actually makes me feel sexy and love seeing soft little dicks on other sexy confident naked men, and also get lots of really sexy feedback from guys and girls too, which is also really hot and such a rush! you should be proud of ur sexy cock and show it man!! I for one would love to see it!
Just a bi guy that loves outdoor activities and has a very small little guy down there! It also has been sucked inside of my body and is very embarrassing when it comes to this. I am very glad to hear that you had this experience to so I am not the only one who has had this problem. It has been a real problem for me and I thought I was the only one that this happened to.
Hi guys. This is an "issue" I have reflected on & feel I've come out the other side of. Some thoughts:
It's a reasonable starting point, we are trained more is better. Porn shows us the big cock gets the girl. School years ridiculing anything small. A life of that feedback & no wonder we hide & are ashamed of a tiny wee-wee. With all the 'little' guys hiding them in the locker room & the hung guys parading & flopping theirs in the locker; it further says only you are small.
Of course you are not small. You are healthy. An erect penis is actually a relaxed penis, the relaxation allows it to become engorged with blood. A flaccid penis is actually a penis at work, the healthier your penis - the smaller it becomes. It is a matter of nerves & muscles & vascular health... that lets you go flaccid (& erect). The smaller you get, the healthier you are.
But that's no comfort if you are 'small'. For me, comfort came with exposure. Me seeing other flaccid cocks, most of which were actually small, in the showers at the Y as an adult. Also from others seeing my flaccid cock & thinking nothing of it - no outbursts of laughter, no one pointing at my tiny... As you get older & realize your cock works for it's biological purpose, how big it is / how you compare to others just matters less. When it matters less, you hide it less.
Put yourself in a situation where it is proper to be nude amongst other nude men. Commit to going to the nude beach X times this season, or to a nudist event, or join a gym/pool & use the showers & don't hide behind your towel. You will quickly realize you are not a freak, that penii come in all shapes & sizes. You will soon become okay with what you have. Know smaller is healthier, know variety is a joy, & trust me when I say there is someone for every variety.
Condition yourself to not be ashamed. Expose yourself to variety, seeing & being seen.
I'm a grower too, mine can get pretty small like after being in cold water at the beach. Will shrink to 3 inches or less. 6.5 inches when fully hard.
Funnily, I nowadays quite like it when I come out small and shrunk like that for everyone to see... dunno why lol. So I'm clearly not ashamed of it when at it's smallest
