Exhibitionist wife
Return to DiscussionsWhen I first introduced my first wife to nudism, she was very shy. She'd wear her sarong most of the time; and be naked only when no one was around. She didn't want anyone to see her completely naked - up close. If she was naked and someone came by to chat, she'd immediately grab her towel to cover her pussy.
Then, one day, something changed.
I'm not sure what it was. Maybe someone said something to her. But one evening, before heading out to the resort the next day, she disappears in the bathroom for a while, and comes back out; shaven bald. I didn't ask her what inspired that new look; and I certainly wasn't going to complain. So we head out to the resort next day, head to the pool area; and I ask her if she wants to sit in the back of the pool area, as usual. She says no; she want to sit right at the edge of the pool. I turn for a second; and turn back around to find my wife lounging with her legs wide open! I get concerned that someone is going to say something about my wife spread out for all to see, bald pussy and all; but no one is saying anything. People are looking though! That would be the beginning of my wife being an exhibitionist.
While applying sunscreen, standing up, she would linger on her pussy and ass - and really "get in there." She also had this "thing" where she would bend over with one leg propped up while straightening her towel or looking through her bag. I would notice some guys staring at her through the entire "process." I would then tell her "Ahem...I think people are looking at your pussy..." and she would just respond "Yeah? So what?!"
Whereas in the beginning she would cover her pussy if someone approached...well she would now talk to people with her legs open and her glistening pussy completely exposed in front of them. She started riding naked to the resort. Sometimes even walking naked from the car to the house. Hugs...she would give people we met "full body naked hugs", pressing her big tits against their chest. One friend; she even let him grab her ass and tits while dancing!
I realized at some point that she had turned exhibitionist. I was too young at the time to fully appreciate it.
What it's like? Well it's actually quite interesting...and entertaining. Especially seeing how people responded to it. Some pretended to not "see anything." Others looked; but were "polite" about it. But I think most enjoyed her uninhibitedness.
Did some guys go home afterwards and masturbate thinking about my wife's pussy? I'm sure. One guy approached me once at the resort and told me, very politely, how "hot" my wife was. I wasn't at all put off; I was actually quite proud of having a "hot wife."
That phase in her life didn't last. I just wish I had embraced it a bit more then. She wasn't interested in swinging though. She was all about "the attention."
I enjoyed your comment about your Exhibitionist wife. I can understand how you may have been too young to fully appreciate it at the time. I think it's more a matter of being naive or inexperienced and being unable to take full advantage of situations when they occur.
My wife enjoys being nude at the nudist club that we belong to. Part of the fun has always been that she is able to expose her private parts to others. She has been discreet about it in that she doesnt deliberately spread her legs apart or anything like that. One has to be careful so that no one makes a complaint. They sometimes hold dances in the clubhouse. The dances are clothing optional. Later in the evening my wife and I would dance completely nude. Occasionally she might even dance nude with another man. I always found that very erotic to watch. One time, a friend got an erection while dancing with her. She laughed when she told me about it later.
We have been to nude swims held during the winter at a recreation facility. She told me how this one guy who worked at the facility happened to walk into the locker room right after she had rinsed off in the shower. He stood there talking with my wife. He was fully clothed. She felt uncomfortable the way he was checking her out because she didnt know him and didnt know what he might do. I got excited when she told me about it later because I was picturing my wife so exposed in front of him.
My wife and I have also sunbathed nude in more public places. One time when we were in Florda, we sunbathed nude on an old wooden dock in front of other people who had their clothes on. It didnt faze her be so exposed like that. I dont think it was so much that she was being an exhibitionist. She just liked to sunbathe nude. Of course, she must have been well aware of the effect that she was having on the other men to let them see her.
I read what you wrote about wondering if some guys went home afterwards and masturbated thinking about your wife's pussy, That is the ultimate fantasy, to know that another man is so turned on by your wife's charms.
My wife enjoys being nude at the nudist club that we belong to. Part of the fun has always been that she is able to expose her private parts to others. She has been discreet about it in that she doesn't deliberately spread her legs apart or anything like that. One has to be careful so that no one makes a complaint.
My current wife (whom I've mentioned elsewhere) is more like yours than my ex-wife. She'll sunbathe legs open only when there's no one close by; and facing away from other people. But she has her "moments." One such "moment" was while we were at the resort; on the other (less populated) side of the lake. A friend of ours happened to be walking by; and my wife didn't see him until he was right in front of us. I figured she'd immediately close her legs, but nope; I looked over at her and her legs were still wide open as she greeted him with a big smile and an exposed glistening vulva lol! It was clearly a very deliberate choice she'd made in that moment to remain completely exposed in front of him. And I could tell this interaction was making quite an impression on him lol!
Another time we'd just arrived at the resort and were setting up our towels. She was bent over on all fours, struggling to keep her towel tethered; as the wind was blowing quite hard. I noticed a guy looking pretty hard at her exposed ass and lips; and I nudged my wife. She simply glanced back, cracked a smile and just remained on all fours. She actually seemed amused by her exposed posture!
There have been more of these "moments"; where she was seen with her vulva fully exposed and made no attempt to "hide it." When I ask her about afterwards, she usually responds that she was "just demonstrating confidence in a situation where it would have made no sense to try to hide." Ok; but there is a thin line between "confidence" and "showing off." I think she forgets sometimes that my ex-wife was an exhibitionist; so I can tell the difference.
My wife is definitely not even in the same ballpark as my ex. But sometimes it's actually better; because it's always unexpected and random. With my ex it was "ok, we're going to the resort; she'd going to show off her bald pussy again!" lol!" With my wife it's more "Wait a minute! Where is that coming from?!" lol!
My current wife (whom I've mentioned elsewhere) is more like yours than my ex-wife. She'll sunbathe legs open only when there's no one close by; and facing away from other people. But she has her "moments."
I like the idea that, although your wife is usually discreet about her exhibitionism, she has her "moments." Yes, my wife is like that too.
I like how your wife kept her legs apart while sunbathing even after your friend unexpectedly approached. She probably reasoned that since she had already been lying that way anyway, why should she bother to close her legs now? Of course, it wasn't an innocent decision. She probably enjoyed giving him that nice view.
I agree with you that there can be a "thin line" between confidence and showing off. My wife is very confident being nude in social settings, but she won't show off unless the circumstances are right.
She is less inhibited when we go to the dances at the nudist club. A couple of glasses of wine usually helps. She'll sometimes start off by wearing lingerie but take it off later in the evening. I love it when she dances nude in front of everyone else. She looks innocent when doing the line dances, but she may behave more mischievously if she likes the music and if the atmosphere that night suggests that she won't get in trouble. This depends in part upon who is at the dance. If there are other women who are dancing mischievously, then my wife will feel freer to do the same.
I have watched her slow dance with other men. Usually if the man is completely nude, she'll wear some item of clothing so as to remain "decent." But if it's later in the evening and she's already nude, she might stay that way. Even though she's nude, she doesn't deliberately try to excite a man while dancing with him. I guess you could make the case that this is innocent but, of course, it isn't.
In a more intimate setting, my wife can be much more of an exhibitionist. We had a gentleman friend who massaged her a few times. He was not a nudist. He would massage her all over, but he would avoid her genitals. One time, she wore red fingernail polish and lipstick for him. Of course, he noticed this right away. He commented that she had "a nice body" and asked why she wasn't wearing nail polish on her toes. It was such a thrill for me to see his reaction upon looking at my naked wife. He would massage her breasts and other erogenous areas, so this wasn't completely innocent. It also wasn't just visual (like sunbathing at a nudist club) as he was actually touching her. But it wasn't sex either. I'm sure that he must have been awfully teased.
I agree with you that there can be a "thin line" between confidence and showing off. My wife is very confident being nude in social settings, but she won't show off unless the circumstances are right.
Indeed.
My wife practices what I would call "selective exhibitionism"; even though she certainly wouldn't call it that herself lol! For her it all depends on the setting and the people.
We have been lucky enough to find a "nude-mandatory" resort and been able to make friends there. She's gotten accustomed to them seeing her naked "from many angles"; just as the "natural result" of constantly being nude around them and "moving around" (bending, leaning, squatting, straddling, etc...). In addition, one of our friends is very much uninhibited; and often sits/lays around with her legs open and her pussy "fully exposed." So when my wife finds herself in situations where she is "caught" sunbathing open-legged by one of our friends, or realizes she's standing in front of them with her "feet apart" while chatting; she rationalizes staying fully exposed with: "well...they've all seen "it" anyway"; and "well Friend #1 is completely exposed most of the time anyway!"
But...that's an excuse. Her decision to shave bald was not a fashion choice. Upon realizing that she was not only NOT going to hide her pussy around our friends; but was actually going to demonstrate uninhibition, and "fully show it" under these circumstances; she decided it should at least look good. And it does. She wouldn't be shaving bald if she wasn't looking for some validation/approval.
But around strangers she's very much modest. Until she gets to know them. She has herself said "well I'm completely naked so they might see everything. But NOT up-close." "Close-up" is just for a selected few lol!
My wife practices what I would call "selective exhibitionism"; even though she certainly wouldn't call it that herself lol! For her it all depends on the setting and the people.
My wife's "selective exhibitionism" also depends on the setting and people. For example, if she picks a chair at the pool at our nudist club that happens to have people behind or next to us, she may turn it around so that she is facing more toward the sun. Anyone now facing her will have a lovely view of her entire front. They'll watch her put lotion on her breasts and legs. Sometimes she'll give me a coy smile, knowing that she's putting on a little show.
If the pool deck is less crowded and there is no one close enough to hear us privately talking, she might tease me verbally, asking me, "Do I look nice? She might be more obvious by spreading her legs a bit more or wiggling her feet. When I tell her that she needs "to behave" so that we don't get in trouble, she just laughs.
I don't think that my wife is necessarily more modest around strangers. If the person happens to be a single male who is visiting our nudist club for the first time, she won't hesitate to be friendly. I'm sure that she is aware that she may be attracting his attention.
I previously mentioned that my wife and I like to go to the dances at our nudist club. Actually, the dances are clothing optional, which seems ironic considering the setting. She hesitates to get completely nude until at least one of the other ladies does. But once she does get nude, she isn't shy about dancing that way in front of everyone, including people she doesn't know. The problem arises more when we know that there is a person present who is likely to make a complaint. In that case, my wife knows that she needs to be on her best behavior despite her nudity. This seems to be less of a problem later in the evening, after everyone has had a few drinks.
Sometimes when we would slow dance nude together, we would get a bit amorous. If my wife dances with a man (other than me) who is nude, she may put on some clothing, but not always. If it's a fast dance, then no problem. She'll stay nude. If it's a slow dance, then it would depend upon how well she knows the person. If she doesn't know him well, she may wear lingerie or a pair of shorts. There's no problem with her remaining topless. Our one friend likes to be nude at the dances, but if he slow dances with my wife and she is nude, he'll cover himself with a towel. I think that's silly. Sometimes she'll fast dance with a couple who we are good friends with. The three of them will be nude. That's when my wife will wiggle her ass and not be concerned about what other people think. Occasionally, she might slow dance with the husband while both of them are nude. This is all harmless. No one is getting hurt.