Trust when trussed
Return to DiscussionsWould you let anyone tie you up or only those you know and trust? Being totally vulnerable is part of the erotic thrill of bondage, being utterly unable to defend myself. And it is so much stronger the less I know the person in charge. It is a fantasy to let complete strangers tie me up? But would I really do it? If they come towards me with a knife are they going to set me free (disappointing), or cut my clothes off (erotic), or hurt me (maybe even mutilate me). And I couldn't stop them!
I advocate knowing, and trusting the play partner you have before turning ANY control over to them. I had a one-time bondage session with a person that qualifies as a trusting moment.
I was stripped, and tied spread eagle to a bed by this person. They proceeded to edge, tease, and forcibly masturbate me over a 2 hour period. It's was incredibly erotic, and I would love to do it again. ......but....no way would I ever do this with anyone I didn't trust completely.
(And yes, I returned the favor to them as well.)
Definitely make sure you know the person and that you agree a password, that you will both remember and agree on it , as saying no is normally part of the fantasy, and make sure that the person doing the tying up is going to agree to stop and if necessary release the ropes,, cuffs or whatever there using to restrain you, and if you're gagged agree a signal or some other way you can say you need them to stop I would also suggest that it might also be a good idea for no stimulants like alcohol or drugs to be taken by either the dom or the sub as this can confuse the mind , and might mean that the person doing the tying misses any signs of pain or panic in the sub , and might also cause the sub to panic or freak out
I would, but under controlled conditions, like a fetish night or a party at a home, with someone who I DO trust overseeing everything, obviously. Like, I wouldn't just go to a total stranger's home and let him start tying me up. But yes, a stranger in a public setting tying me up? Absolutely! :)
I'll throw in my answer to the question I asked. The fantasy is to be tied up, stripped and abused by complete strangers, helpless to defend myself. Part of the buzz is not knowing what will happen next, how far they will go and the danger. In reality I would want at least one trusted friend present for my safety. He/she would know my boundaries. It is much better than a safe word. I like the scene where all the doms are in disguise, or I'm blindfolded (so I don't know which one is my friend).