introduction the wife to groups
been trying to figure a way to get my wife introduced to groups and swinging, any suggestions, she seems game when she turn on to the hilt during sex play, maybe some other couples could help me het her going, i hear same room sex is a good ice breaker or mutual master bation, any suggestions ????
We were watching a porn DVD filmed in a swinger club one night in bed, and he asked if she'd like to try visiting one. She said she'd think about it, and the next morning said yes, so we went the next Saturday night. We took it very easy and didn't do a full swap with another couple until we had been several times. Swapping partners for sex is a big step in any relationship so it's a good idea not to rush things; he was ready to swap before she was but we waited until she was completely OK about it. Then we did it, enjoyed it and have been swinging ever since (10 years ago now).
If you've been married a while you might have to take it slowly, we had not been together very long when we started so it was quite easy. Years ago, when married before, he asked his ex if she would go swinging with him and she really hated the idea, thought it was just an excuse for him to have other women.
Whatever you do, don't arrange a 4some or a 3some unless you've discussed it with your wife and DON'T involve your (non-swinging) friends in it, that's a good way to cause a lot of grief to everyone. Good luck, hope you both get into the lifestyle and have fun!
Dear How To,
I do not have any experience to back up my suggestion, but you may see if you can find a woman that you know, or find a woman that is a swinger, and have her befriend your wife. Have the woman ask your wife, of course, after you have discussed it with her, so that your wife can feel more comfortable with the fact that another woman is already doing it. I just came up with the idea.
HOW you do this, of course, is the difficult part.
Best of Luck.
Phil.
Really old post, but in case someone is in a similar situation -
I highly recommend HBO's Swing series. Its in season 4 now I think. In each episode a new couple is introduced to the LS. Sometimes is goes great sometimes its a disaster. Its always entertaining though.
The best part, if you watch it with your partner its a fantastic conversation starter. Communication is key, and this is a good way to get into those topics that might be hard to start a discussion on.
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