OK, so for some it's when other men (or i guess ladies) are showing clear signs of arousal seeing our chatting with your wife that can give you that turn on?
And for some its where that can go further, and the wife also shows signs of arousal for another.
Finally it might be the arousal of seeing your wife fucked by another.
Lots of stages and one stage may not lead to another, that might be a limit for you.??
It's quite intriguing to me that a married couple can happily both fantasise and enact having sex with other partners, expressing high levels of sexual desire for a different partner than their spouse... i hear that sometimes this is not even both partners but either the wife or husband is the one swinging while the other gets a sexual satisfaction from the desires expressed by their partner.Of course, i know that this is the essence of swinging but this division between love for ones spouse and sexual desire and indeed the turn on when that desire is expressed by your partner is still an intriguing subject.
There is a big difference between candaulism and swinging. Candaulism is more of a visual, exhibitionistic behavior while swinging involves actual sex. Candaulism could be a prelude to swinging, but not necessarily. Just because I fantasize about another man seeing my wife naked doesn't mean that I want him to actually have sex with her. Also, there is a big difference between having fantasies and acting on them.
And for some its where that can go further, and the wife also shows signs of arousal for another.
There are definitely "levels" to it.
Many years ago I was at a nude beach; and not too far from me was a couple. The woman was sunbathing spread-eagled. Guys would walk by - and hover. One guy got hard, and the woman, encouraged by her BF/husband, started rubbing her pussy. Another guy joined the erected man, then another; and they started masturbating as well while watching her. And then a woman started yelling at them lol! And they all dispersed. I hear this is a common occurrence at Cap D'Agde.
This is candaulism pushed to its "maximum level." Some candaulists fantasize about this happening to them. To each their own, but that's not my "vibe." Getting openly sexual with candaulism can certainly lead to other things. And even though I enjoy my wife being seen exposed; that's how far I'm willing to go.
Thank you for this explanation, i get what you are saying completely, i too enjoy my gf being admired, but I'm not so keen on that going any further. I didn't even really like the admiration and desire being shown by my gf to other men but liked the fact they were turned on by her.
Hope that makes sense.
Its an interesting discussion.
I guess it's mostly Men that enjoy other men viewing their female partners, i know i do.
But clearly women enjoy this too. The first time i went naked on a hotel ( it was allowed!) beach
my late wife got extremely aroused during the day watching people viewing my nudity. So much so she allowed a guy to watch us have sex through the patio doors. It was the first of several times that when sexually aroused she was keen to allow strangers to view her naked and watch us from afar. I obviously loved it. I sometimes wonder how much further her desire to be seen would have taken her and our exhibition.
Having since met, and enjoyed couples that participate in swinging and public sex i find it an interesting dynamic. It's a dynamic i would have liked to have explored more personally at one time, my partner with another man, but I'm content now enjoying men, and women, enjoying her view.
And for some its where that can go further, and the wife also shows signs of arousal for another.There are definitely "levels" to it.Many years ago I was at a nude beach; and not too far from me was a couple. The woman was sunbathing spread-eagled. Guys would walk by - and hover. One guy got hard, and the woman, encouraged by her BF/husband, started rubbing her pussy. Another guy joined the erected man, then another; and they started masturbating as well while watching her. And then a woman started yelling at them lol! And they all dispersed. I hear this is a common occurrence at Cap D'Agde.This is candaulism pushed to its "maximum level." Some candaulists fantasize about this happening to them. To each their own, but that's not my "vibe." Getting openly sexual with candaulism can certainly lead to other things. And even though I enjoy my wife being seen exposed; that's how far I'm willing to go.
You mentioned Cap dAgde. Theres a section of the beach where theres a lot of open sex, and nobodys yelling for it to stop. If youre just strolling the beach you are unlikely to actually see the sex because there will be a dense crowd of people surrounding them. I think thats more simple exhibitionism than candaulism
In my fantasies about candaulism, the person who becomes aroused by seeing my wife naked is respectful toward her or at least not a threat. The situation would need to be a safe one. Also, my wife would either be aware that she is being seen by another person or would be okay with it after the fact. For example, we had an experience years ago where the friend of the owner of a rustic nudist camp disrespectfully gawked at my wife. He was not a nudist and had all his clothes on. I didn't like that.
It is a truly fascinating subject and the range of what's acceptable to us all varies from simply a man admiring type wife all the way to a man fucking your wife and plenty of stops in between.
My own experience is that i liked men admiring my gf and wanting to do sexual things with her.
I fantasize about scenarios where both my wife and the other person are nude, as compared to clothed-male-nude-female (CMNF) situations (although those can be very exciting too). If the other person is nude, his arousal will be fully on display. I also like when the other person isn't experienced in social nudity. For example, we invite the nice young man who lives next door to soak in the hot tub with us. We tell him that we don't wear bathing suits and suggest that he doesn't wear one either. He is embarrassed at first but decides to do without the suit. My wife sits on the edge of the tub with her feet dangling in the water, allowing him a lovely view of her breasts and pussy. He can't help looking at my wife the whole time. He ends up getting an erection that both my wife and I can see. Since this is a purely candaulist situation, he gets to see my wife naked but doesn't get to touch her.
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