So Many Top Guys = None Near Me
I see there are hundreds of members here who are tops. I also see there are thousands more in other groups. Why can't I find any near me in The Villages, FL? Seems like those who say they are tops, end up being fakes who are bottoms, or, no boners.
You live in an overwhelmingly MAGA, Evangelical and Conservative retirement community. There is a code of conduct and contractual agreement to not do all kinds of things in your home including gay sex with casual partners. Orlando is very close, and there are many men there who are exactly what you're looking for.
It's entirely up to someone else what they want to self describe as. If they say top, that doesn't mean "top for you and everybody else". If they want to bottom for you, consider that a compliment. Also, out of the hundreds here and thousands, how many have you actually met? If that number is less than 100, that's a very broad generalization to make. If it's less than 10, or 5, or 1, well, the problem is probably shared at this point, being very generous.
As someone who is advertising as a sub, if the top isnt hard, that's a you problem. It's not his job to arrive rock raging hard and service you. That's a rental unit/commercial friend. It's your job to either provide the viagra or cialis (and you can disagree but in the end that just means you don't get what you want, which seems like a bad outcome to me), or to use your mouth and hands to get him hard and ready. I have spent a lifetime perfecting this skill set and it comes in very handy. I also really enjoy doing it.
The problem is you. Your expectations are unrealistic, and you seem unwilling to make them so, but instead of addressing that problem, you're blaming thousands of men you don't know. At the end of the day, if this is what you want, and its making you happy, or you are just not willing to consider another approach, then by all means, don't mind me. But if you are really seeking what you claim to be seeking, you have two choices: accept that you can do something to make it easier for you to find the pleasure you seek, many somethings in fact, or keep things as they are, knowing that this approach has failed to work in the past already
I want you and every other man to be happy fulfilled and accessing the sex they want, have the experience to know what works and what doesn't and wouldn't comment if I didn't.